What is Emotional Regulation? Why Do I Have to Do It?


 

    Yesterday, I was having a weekly meeting with a Sponsee about my own Issue with "Emotional Regulation" and in the past being pissed that I was the one who had to do it... Why not the BOYFRIEND, why not the FAMILY MEMBER, why not the BOSS, WHY not the BEST FRIEND... and Countless Others who were triggering me, had issues with volatile anger and spent morning noon, and night raging about their problems dictating orders! Today I look at EMOTIONAL REGULATION as a gift. As a way of treating my PROBLEM in COMMUNICATING, REACTING, and RECOGNIZING BOUNDARIES.

 When I recognize the efforts and dysfunctional coping strategies I used in relationships with boyfriends, family members, bosses, best friends, etc., no wonder I had problems. I developed people-pleasing, fixing, manipulation, rescuing, co-dependency, triangulation, dishonesty, judgment, disloyalty, disloyalty, betrayal, and the main was the abandonment of myself.!

 In getting help for myself, I could no longer participate in unhealthy trauma. I can now really unpack my feelings in a given situation and their triggers and put them into TODAY. This keeps me from acting and reacting from insecure attachment wounds that were developed in childhood that I get to learn lessons from and move forward with gently and gracefully in my life today.

Life is precious and an adventure with some pretty amazing people. I'm so grateful I showed up and continue doing so even though I still have work. I look forward to my transformation.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/emotional-regulation.html 

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