Conversing With Your Future Self

 


Good morning Followers!

 This is the first time I'm using one of my personalized paint by number paintings as one of my main photos in this blog! This is my dog Ginger as a little pup and today she will represent a me growing up and recognizing so much about myself and the possibilities in store for you as you learn to have an indepth conversation between your present self and future self❤️❤️❤️.

Let me first introduce where I got this 💡. It comes from a curse I'm taking from Transformation Academy called "Future Self Life Coaching Certification". It's well taught by Kimberly Rich, a Tedx Speaker, High Performance Coach, and also the host of Transportation Academy's "The Profitable Coach Podcast". She is also the creator and host of "The Bold Life Movement Podcast", sharing inspiring common peoples' stories doing uncommon things.

Now to move onto today's "conversation".

This is all about opening a dialogue with your Future Self-better known as the evolved version of you who has already achieved what you're working toward. 

This letter and "conversation" becomes both an introduction and invitation to deepen your connection with who you're truly "becoming".

Let's look at the "Pre-Writing Reflection":

Take a few minutes in a quiet space to center yourself. Close your eyes and then imagine yourself sitting across from your Future Self in a "comfortable space" of your own choosing:

I'm going to answer the questions to give you examples:

Setting the Scene:

  • Where is the meeting taking place? In a field of lavender
  • What time of day is it? Morning
  • What is the atmosphere like? Cool and sunny
  • What's the first thing you pick up on about your Future Self? She's very calm and strong
Part 1: Your Letter

Begin your letter below. Let it flow naturally, as if you're having a conversation with someone you respect deeply and wish to know better.

Dear Future Self,

(Opening- Express your true and honest feelings about this meeting)

   I'm so happy to have this time with you today. This is the first time I've ever felt at peace facing you to gain knowledge, strength, and clarity from and about you on such a vulnerable level. I'm open to what you have to offer.

(Share your current situation) I'm writing to you from my heart, body, and soul on 3/16/25. Right now, I'm feeling a little scared yet also trusting. My biggest challenge is daily finding balance with my path, people (relationships), and not taking words and behaviors personally. I'm taking risks and listening to HP and you more intently than I ever thought I could. I wish to continue growing in this area of letting go of the need to control, "be the one" or the awkward space of being "excluded". My greatest hope is recovery from old tapes and old defense mechanisms that now cause me harm.

(Ask questions you've been wondering about) I've always wanted to know.....

1. What will it be like when I let go of these behaviors and who will I be?
2. Will I continue to be alone?
3. Will I always care so much about what others think and do?

Share your (commitments) I promise to help us become who we're meant to be by:

1. Taking it one person. place, situation, behavior at a time
2. Letting It Begin With Me
3. Recognizing when old survival mechanisms are triggering me and not "acting on them"

(Express your curiosities) What I'm most curious about our journey is:

1. Who will show up for our journey?
2. Where our journey will take us?

(Share your fears with vulnerability) I'm nervous about:

1. How I will look or sound
2. How I'll even start this 

(Request guidance) Could you help me understand?

1. That I'm releasing unsafe or unhealthy behaviors
2. You've never let me down and I'm worth this process

With anticipation and trust,

Laura(Present Self)


Part 2 Future Self's Response

Now it's time to shift perspectives. Take a deep breath. Step into your Future Self's Wisdom and Energy. You are now going to write a response letter from their perspective.

Dear Laura,

(Express appreciation for reaching out to you)

   Thanks so much for trusting me with your personal journey and being so willing to be open, vulnerable, and even - scared. Yes, I said scared! That is often where we are most open to be attentive to learning the necessary lessons of Life.

(Address their current challenges with wisdom) About your challenge with balance and not taking words and behaviors personally, it's a daily skill. It becomes one that teaches me more information about myself and my relationships with others. I learn to hear better and to also react differently. It also gives me countless opportunities to be more flexible with my time, less rigid with how I do things, and the ability to discern that I'm grateful for the peace I've found in my home, work, and everywhere I take myself.

(Share key insights from the journey) The most important things I've learned along our path:

1. You haven't always made mistakes. You were willing to show up and take responsibility for your part. You became "defensive" which is different from taking it personal as at that time of your life you didn't have the skills to stand in your truth.
2. You sometimes get lost in making "correct choices"(helping others, getting responsibilities accomplished, having fun, self-care)- this is priority issue which for you may be a life long process and giving yourself "permission" to be "in charge of it" is the "key".
3. You didn't understand when people raised their voices that they weren't mad at you or the "difference between "venting" and "sharing". Either way, this gave you the opportunity to learn "boundaries"  and what extreme emotion dysregulation triggers were. You also learned how to discern what was yours, what wasn't, when to let go, and how to work on your own trauma.

(Offer specific guidance) To help you on your journey, remember:

1. You're not ALONE.
2. It takes PRACTICE.
3. PRAYER, MEDITATION, JOURNALING, GROUNDING, GETTING OUT IN NATURE
4. SELF-CARE
5. SELF-LOVE
6. HAVE FUN!!!!
7. GIVE YOURSELF A DAY OFF!!!
8. READ FOR FUN

(Share a proud moment ) One of my favorite memories we created was:

The very first day we went on Printify and designed a product together!




(Offer reassurance) What I wish you could see about yourself right now:

That you are smart, fun, beautiful, kind, wise, successful, and so respected.

(Give practical advice) The most helpful daily practices that got us here:

1. Getting trauma therapy
2. 12 Step programs
3. Having a relationship with HP

With love and certainty, 

Laura (Future Self)


Part 3: Integration

Key Themes from both letters:

  • open-minded
  • scared
  • behaviors
  • vulnerable
  • balance
  • defense mechanisms
Surprising Insights that emerged:

In my letter to future self, my commitments were basically Al-Anon Slogans.
In my response letter to my present self, the key insights show how much growth and the incredible mindshifts I've made due to the work I've done. It's quite refreshing to see the payoff!

Immediate Actions inspired by this exchange:

1. Look at how I'm speaking up!
2. Priority Management in daily choices(I'm in charge).
3. Respect yourself by how long you "allow" people to take up your day 

Maintaining the Connection:

Choose how to keep this connection alive:

Regular Check-Ins. I'll re-read these letters every week

Morning Connection: What's one way I can greet my Future Self each morning?

Allow a ten minute sit down and listen to what she has to tell you about your upcoming day.

Evening Reflection: Before bed, I'll share a gratitude with my Future Self by verbally expressing it and then allowing her to give her feedback.

Visual Reminder: I'll create a visual representation of this connection just as demonstrated in this process of the pre-writing meditation of getting to a quiet moment with my Future Self and sitting comfortably with her.


Commitment to Connection 

I , Laura, commit, to nurturing this relationship with my Future Self. I understand that they're not a distant stranger but a "wise guide" whose actively helping me evolve.

Signed,

Laura    

Date: 3/16/2025

Note: Remember this is a living document. Return to it often, add new insights, and let it evolve as your relationship with your own Future Self deepens.


I really am intrigued to hear your thoughts about this process! I hope you'll try it out for yourself. As always, if you feel led, please share with me.

Peace, Humility, and Gratitude,

Laura

'promise me this
never let anyone 
shame you
for choosing yourself"

"learning to love myself" pg.  21, Alex Aubrey


   PS. I'm also including this this teacher's classroom assignment on writing a letter to yourself and mailing it to his students twenty years later!!!!
 
 


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