How to Build and Be in Authentic Relationships

 








Good morning Followers!

Let's start out by looking at the difference between authentic vs. inauthentic relationships.

Here's an article from Elizabetta Franzoso on the 2 types of love in relationships ( I can honestly say I have received and given both kinds):

https://elisabettafranzoso.com/articles/authentic-love-vs-inauthentic-love

Why does it matter anyway? Because... today, we're looking at building authentic relationships not fake ones!

I'm still borrowing from Gladies Ramos, my instructor at Transformation Academy.

Today, we will look at  our personal communication styles, emotional patterns, and boundaries within our relationships.

The first part of the worksheet addresses:

1. Reframing Your Communication: Take time to think of a recent situation where you didn't express your true feelings. How could you restate it using an "I feel... when... I need... format? 

https://www.mentalyc.com/blog/cognitive-reframing

2. Being Emotionally Transparent. Have a self-check in! When are you are most likely to shut down, lash out, or avoid emotional honesty? What would taking responsibility for your emotions like in those moments?

https://app.carepatron.com/Clients?previewTemplateId=614cc883-ff9a-4e98-95de-41876c9cc6e9

https://infosphere.cc/unlocking-authentic-emotions-10-tips-for-encouraging-emotional-honesty/

3. Awareness of Personal Boundaries: Identify a relationship where your boundaries feel unclear or disrespected. What is one boundary you need to set or reinforce?

https://psychhub.com/resources/articles/setting-boundaries-in-relationships

4. Assess Your Patterns of People-Pleasing: Where in your life do you say yes when you really mean no? What fear or old story keeps that pattern in place? What would self-honoring look like instead?

https://soultending.academy/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/People-Pleasing-Workbook.pdf

https://shows.acast.com/everyday-spirituality/episodes/from-people-pleasing-to-self-honoring-the-inner-shift

5. Write a New Narrative: Write a short affirmation or intention that reflects how you want to show up in your relationships moving forward. For ex: "I speak my truth with clarity and care." or "I honor my needs without guilt."

https://gracechatting.com/personal-growth/writing-your-new-story-in-spite-of-a-tough-relationship/

I'm so grateful to delve deeper into all of these subtopics around "authentic relationships". It really helps me to learn how to express myself clearer, be more honest, work my boundaries, let go of people-pleasing, and be the person I want and was born to be!


So on that note... "I'm going about my with compassion, courage, and curiosity".


Peace, Love, and Honesty,


Laura


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