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Always Coming Back to "Me" ... Leaving Self-Abandonment Behind

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   Yesterday I got a beautiful opportunity to do some real soul-digging and a history lesson at the same time!  I'm working on my Master's Life Coaching Certification with Transformation Academy and Udemy and got to look up: 1) Nobel Peace Prize Winners during my Era to now and what I admired that could motivate me to what I wanted in my 5 Life Zones: Relationships, Career, Body, Mind and Spirit, Adventure, and Home. 2) Inventions from this same Era and what was the theme that could propel me forward! 3) Music from times in my life that made me happy or reminded me of success. 4) Pictures of myself over my lifetime where I was happy that represented success or achievement. 5) Incorporating smells that bring me happiness. 6) Incorporating textures that bring me happiness.  As I looked over my lifetime, I recognized I was there and hadn't disappeared as I had previously brainwashed myself to believe. Moreover, there were others to support and love me all through the pr...

What is Emotional Regulation? Why Do I Have to Do It?

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      Yesterday, I was having a weekly meeting with a Sponsee about my own Issue with "Emotional Regulation" and in the past being pissed that I was the one who had to do it... Why not the BOYFRIEND, why not the FAMILY MEMBER, why not the BOSS, WHY not the BEST FRIEND... and Countless Others who were triggering me, had issues with volatile anger and spent morning noon, and night raging about their problems dictating orders! Today I look at EMOTIONAL REGULATION as a gift. As a way of treating my PROBLEM in COMMUNICATING, REACTING, and RECOGNIZING BOUNDARIES.  When I recognize the efforts and dysfunctional coping strategies I used in relationships with boyfriends, family members, bosses, best friends, etc., no wonder I had problems. I developed people-pleasing, fixing, manipulation, rescuing, co-dependency, triangulation, dishonesty, judgment, disloyalty, disloyalty, betrayal, and the main was the abandonment of myself.!  In getting help for myself, I could no lon...

What is Self-Care? How Do I Even Begin?

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 As a kid, I loved to take bubble baths, have my hair rolled, and paint my nails even though I was a TOMBOY! I spent most of my growing-up years doing good hygiene, but scheduling SELF-CARE wasn't a PRIORITY. I had a HUSBAND, WORK, a BABY, an APARTMENT, and then LIFE!   As I have come full circle with my physical, mental, and spiritual health, I have realized, self-care is a PRIORITY. It feels great to daily set aside time to take a bubble bath, color my hair, paint my nails, have a special cup of tea, soak my feet, and get a MASSAGE, because not only am I WORTH IT... But It's a way of NURTURING myself! And when I do, I feel so much better, I'm able to give from a better place within myself wherever I take myself! So the definition of SELF-CARE? "Self-Care has been defined as the process of establishing behaviors to ensure holistic well-being of oneself, to promote health, and actively manage illness when it occurs." Wikipedia How Do I Even Begin? https://www.nimh...

Self-Care/ Self-Love Coaching

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So ladies I love passing on good information...     Especially in the area on Self-Love!!!    I remember in my early days of recovering from a break-up and having to learn that I was "lovable" and could even stand to like something about me in the MIRROR!!!!   Here's a photo of me doing just THAT!!!! Thanks Angie for teaching ME that God doesn't make no JUNK!!!   AND Here's that technique, A.K.A info I 'm passing on to you...   https://storage.googleapis.com/msgsndr/CnHzOcj9sxgY3EzFIpfX/media/639276da36fcc23ff8dd09b3.pdf?sessionId=7b808c93-b03f-4ecf-a37c-8911da052d6b&trigger_link=1CHjYEpkKZKxdU2lPtS3  Share what you love about yourselves!!!!!