Life's Little Nuggets

 Good morning, Followers,      Funny how the very thing in life you are studying is the very thing you need more help with yourself. I'm in the Expression Tools of my Confidence Coaching from "Transformation Academy". I have ironically asked for help from my counselor to improve my communication skills. This session for Expression Tools is concise and helps pave the wave to healthier communication. 1. Making "I" statements. In this tool, the client gets to focus on their own feelings while taking "responsibility" for their part. It also defines NOT accusing the other party directly or naming their behavior. This is about "You" the "Client". Instead of saying, " You breathe down my neck when I'm typing", rephrase it into an "I" statement. "Sometimes when I'm typing, it feels like you are getting into my personal space, and I feel smothered by this." You can begin by reflecting on something you ne...

  Good evening, followers!       Part of this Confidence Coaching that I'm taking covers Getting Momentum Through 3 Different Forms of Action Steps: 1. Quick Wins: Helps me to look at my "to-do list" and do it quickly. This "Empowers" me to do things I'm not really good at; ex: I'll have a conversation with someone I can easily laugh with before having a "hard" conversation with my boss. https://www.lauranoelle.com/clearing-clutter/ 2. 5 Second Decisions: Our brains are wired to "avoid risk and fear change". "Indecision is a form of self-abuse". By not deciding, you're giving away your power." "When you have a thought that will better your situation, act on it." https://www.theceomagazine.com/business/management-leadership/the-5-second-rule/ 3. Immediate Massive Action: Make a decision. Take Massive Action that gets you as far down the path as you can and makes you "accountable". What can I do no...

  Good morning, followers!          This Blog Title came off of Last Week's "Healthy Chick Affirmation Cards". This particular card is "CONFIDENCE." I've personally loved every minute of this part of my course in "Confidence Coaching." I've gotten to complete a Confidence assessment. Then from that take the areas I weakest in and choose 5 of them and deep dive targeting: 1. Areas of Improvement 2. What does a lack of confidence in this area look like and feel like for you? 3. What specific aspect of this situation is of GREATEST concern for you? 4. What specific EMOTION or BEHAVIOR do YOU Observe in YOURSELF that leads you to not Feeling CONFIDENT? 5. Now that you have done each of these 5 areas, analyze alternatives : What would being confident look like for you in this situation? What body language, statements, and actions would you have as a confident person? What would it look like if YOU were CONFIDENT in these areas? 6. Now that you have...

 Good morning followers!       I have been working on Confidence Life Coaching Certification. I just finished listing out my personal plan of action in the area of a Growth Mindset.    https://www.bing.com/videos/riverview/relatedvideo?q=Free+Fixed+Mindset+vs+Growth+Set&mid=222EDDB232B12FDF28EB222EDDB232B12FDF28EB As I wrote it out, I was reminded of my personal path in Al-Anon and a dear friend who helped me see that I could write my own Personal Bill of Rights to myself as a beautiful way to remind myself that I was lovable, worthy, skillful, had choices, human, and deserved respect.  So, I am including the Personal Bill of Rights which I was introduced to in Trauma therapy through "Robin's Hope".  https://www.etsu.edu/students/counseling/documents/stressgps/personalbillofrights.pdf I'd love to hear your own idea of how you could use this Bill of Rights to cultivate your own Goal or Growth Mindset today.

  Good morning, followers!     What a privilege it is to have a thirst for knowledge. I'm taking a course called, "Certified Life Transition Counselor and Coach" by Sufani Garza. She simply yet eloquently states how we take all this energy we have invested into a particular dream and in this beautiful period of transition, we have an opportunity! We can: 1. Do self-care. 2. Research those ideas we put on the back burner. 3. Keep learning and moving forward and use our emotional intelligence to guide us as a compass to say yeah or nay. 4. Use this as an opportunity to know every single step but have a "spiritual awakening" as to what's next for us in our LIFE. Deep Spiritual Awakening? 28 Major Signs, Symptoms & What To Know (typicallytopical.com) So, this energy transition is a good thing! Pay attention to it and yourself!  How To Send Distant Energy Healing To Anyone: 6 Steps (themindsjournal.com)

  I met with a Sponsee yesterday for our weekly coffee and conversation at Panera's. We got into how everything we see, hear, and experience through others is an opportunity to mirror.   This made me see through my journey of self-discovery and awareness that I have been given this technique and tool. https://www.life-with-confidence.com/understanding-yourself.html I continue to daily experience gratitude as I see my own growth in seeing another's journey reflected back to me. It's such a spiritual experience. It's also one that allows me to get out of the way and allow them to find their way without my "interference".  I found this article on when Mirroring should be used!  https://lifehacker.com/what-is-behavior-mirroring-and-when-should-you-use-it-1848849649 I would love to hear back from you about your experiences with mirroring.

  So, Clients, it's been a hot minute since I checked in and wrote a blog! I have been completing a master's program in Empowerment Life Coaching and a Counseling and Mental Health Diploma from POBA. This is not my entire life! While educating myself, I also do self-care and continue to practice what I preach! The other day, I ordered from one of my favorite vendors, Cratejoy.com . I purchased a 180 Degree Box.  https://www.cratejoy.com/subscription-box/180deg-box/?cjt=account~my_subscriptions~~1~180%20~search-bar     There were all sorts of delightful items included in my order. The one I'm going to talk about is: These reminded me of a wonderful safe Group I participated in on Fridays at "Robin's Hope" called, "Seeking Safety". We drew numbers corresponding to quotes, tools, or even Steps that helped us that day and throughout the week. Anyway, I shuffled this deck, and the first card I drew was: So how can you invite more "Bliss" into y...